What to Expect in Postpartum Depression Therapy: A First Session Guide

You've made the appointment. Now you're sitting in your car outside the therapist's office (or staring at the Zoom link on your screen), wondering what you've gotten yourself into.

Your heart is racing. You're not sure what to say. You're worried you'll cry the whole time. Or worse, that you won't be able to explain what's wrong at all.

"Starting therapy takes courage, especially when you're already depleted."

I've sat across from hundreds of new moms in that first session. And I can tell you: what you're feeling right now is completely normal.

Let me walk you through exactly what happens in postpartum depression therapy: from that nerve-wracking first session to the point where you start feeling like yourself again.

Before Your First Session: What to Prepare

You don't need to prepare much. Seriously. Just show up. But if it helps reduce anxiety, here's what might be useful:

Information to Have Ready

Current symptoms and when they started
Your birth experience (brief overview, you'll have time to go deeper later)
Any medications you're currently taking
Previous mental health history (if any)
Insurance information

What to Bring (Virtual or In-Person)

Your insurance card (if applicable)
A water bottle
Tissues (provided, but having your own helps)
Your baby (if needed, many postpartum therapists are baby-friendly)

What you DON'T need: A clear explanation of what's wrong (that's what we'll figure out together) • To have stopped crying (therapy is the place FOR crying) • To look put together (I've seen it all—yoga pants and messy buns are standard)

The First 10 Minutes: Paperwork and Logistics

Before the real conversation starts, there's some administrative stuff to handle.

What happens:

You'll fill out intake forms (or complete them before the session)
Your therapist will review confidentiality and privacy policies
You'll discuss practical matters: session length, frequency, payment, cancellation policy
You'll sign consent forms

Common questions covered:

How long are sessions? (Usually 45-50 minutes)
How often will we meet? (Most start weekly, some bi-weekly)
What if I need to bring my baby? (Many therapists welcome this)
Is this confidential? (Yes, with rare exceptions like imminent danger)

Ask any logistical questions now. Once we dive into the clinical work, it's harder to backtrack to "So, what's your cancellation policy?"

The Assessment Phase (Minutes 10-35)

This is where your therapist gathers information to understand what you're experiencing and how to help.

Your Symptoms and Timeline

Questions you'll likely hear:

When did you first notice feeling this way?
What symptoms are you experiencing? (sadness, anxiety, sleep issues, appetite changes, etc.)
How often do you feel this way? (all day, certain times, on and off)
On a scale of 1-10, how severe would you say it is?

You might complete screening tools like:

Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS): 10-question assessment of postpartum mood
Generalized Anxiety Disorder Scale (GAD-7): Measures anxiety symptoms
Sometimes: Specific screens for OCD, PTSD, or panic disorder

Why this matters: These tools help your therapist understand the severity of your symptoms and track improvement over time.

Your Birth Story

Your therapist will ask about your pregnancy and delivery—not to pry, but because birth experiences significantly impact postpartum mental health.

Common questions:

How was your pregnancy? Any complications?
What was your birth experience like?
Did anything happen that felt traumatic or scary?
How was your recovery? Any medical complications?
If you're breastfeeding, how is that going?

You don't need to tell every detail. Hit the highlights. If something was traumatic, you can say, "It was really hard, and I'd like to talk about it more later when I feel ready."

Your Support System

Questions about who's helping you:

Who lives with you?
How is your relationship with your partner (if you have one)?
Do you have family or friends nearby?
Are you getting help with the baby?
How are you managing household tasks, meals, etc.?

Why this matters: Isolation and lack of support are huge risk factors for PPD. Your therapist needs to know what resources you have and what you're missing.

Your History

Questions about your past:

Have you ever experienced depression or anxiety before?
Any previous therapy or psychiatric treatment?
Family history of mental health conditions?
Any major life stressors right now beyond the baby?
History of trauma, abuse, or significant loss?

This isn't judgment, it's context. Past mental health history doesn't mean you're "broken." It just helps your therapist understand patterns and what treatments might work best.

Risk Assessment

Your therapist will ask about thoughts of self-harm or harm to the baby. This is standard protocol, not because they think you're dangerous.

Questions you'll hear:

Have you had thoughts of hurting yourself?
Have you had thoughts of hurting your baby?
If yes: How often? Do you have a plan? Do you feel like you might act on these thoughts?

Why this matters: Intrusive thoughts (scary, unwanted thoughts you DON'T want to act on) are common and treatable • Suicidal thoughts need immediate attention but are also treatable • True psychosis (believing harmful thoughts are reasonable) is rare but requires urgent care

Your therapist won't judge you or overreact. They're assessing to keep you safe and get you the right level of care.

The Clinical Formulation (Minutes 35-45)

Once your therapist has gathered all this information, they'll share their initial thoughts.

What they'll tell you:

What they think is going on (diagnosis or clinical impression)
How common this is (you're not alone)
What evidence-based treatments work for this
What your therapy will likely focus on

Example:

"Based on what you've shared, it sounds like you're experiencing moderate postpartum depression with some anxiety symptoms. This is very common. About 15-20% of new moms go through this. The good news is that CBT and sometimes medication work really well for this. In our sessions, we'll work on..."

This is also when you can ask:

Do I need medication?
How long will therapy take?
What if it's not working?
Can I do therapy and medication together?

The Treatment Plan (Minutes 45-50)

In the last few minutes, you'll outline what comes next.

Your therapist will explain:

Goals: What you're working toward (e.g., "reduce anxiety so you can sleep when baby sleeps")
Frequency: How often you'll meet (usually weekly at first)
Approach: What therapeutic modalities they'll use (CBT, IPT, EMDR, etc.)
Timeline: When you might start feeling better (usually 6-8 weeks)
Homework: Sometimes there's "between-session work" (thought logs, practicing techniques, etc.)

You'll also discuss:

Whether you need a referral to a psychiatrist for medication evaluation
If additional support would help (support groups, couples therapy, etc.)

What the First Session Will Feel Like

Let me be honest about what to expect emotionally:

You'll Probably Cry

Most women cry in the first session. It's often the first time you've said out loud how hard things have been. Crying is not only okay—it's therapeutic.

You Might Feel Exposed

Talking about vulnerable feelings with a stranger is uncomfortable. That's normal. It usually gets easier by session 2-3.

You May Feel Relieved

Many moms leave the first session feeling lighter. Finally, someone gets it. You're not crazy. There's a plan.

You Might Feel Exhausted

Therapy is emotional work. It's okay to feel drained afterward. Be gentle with yourself.

You Could Feel Skeptical

"How is talking going to fix this?" Fair question. Give it a few sessions. Most women start noticing shifts by week 3-4.

After the First Session: What Happens Next

Session 2-3: Deep Dive

You'll start working on specific skills (thought reframing, coping strategies, etc.)
Your therapist will teach you tools to manage symptoms between sessions
You'll explore patterns and triggers more deeply

Sessions 4-8: Active Treatment

This is where the real work happens
You'll practice new skills, challenge negative thoughts, process difficult emotions
Most women start feeling noticeably better during this phase

Sessions 9-12: Consolidation

Reinforcing what's working
Preventing relapse
Preparing to step down frequency (from weekly to bi-weekly, etc.)

Beyond 12 weeks:

Some women wrap up therapy
Others continue monthly or as-needed for ongoing support
There's no "right" timeline—it depends on your needs

Common First-Session Fears (And the Truth)

"What if I can't stop crying?"

The truth: Cry as much as you need. I always have tissues. Crying is part of the process.

"What if I can't explain what's wrong?"

The truth: You don't have to have it all figured out. That's my job. You just need to show up and be honest about what you're feeling.

"What if they judge me?"

The truth: Postpartum therapists have heard it all. We're not shocked, judgmental, or surprised. We're here to help, not critique.

"What if they make me take medication?"

The truth: Therapists can't prescribe medication (unless they're also a psychiatrist). They can recommend it, but you always have a choice.

"What if it doesn't work?"

The truth: Therapy for postpartum depression has a very high success rate—especially when you have a specialized therapist. If one approach isn't working, we adjust.

"What if I have to talk about my childhood?"

The truth: Postpartum therapy is usually focused on the here-and-now. If past issues are relevant, we'll address them. But this isn't years of psychoanalysis.

Red Flags in a First Session

Most first sessions go well. But occasionally, something feels off. Trust your gut if:

Red Flags: The therapist seems uncomfortable with postpartum-specific issues • They dismiss your symptoms as "just hormones" or "normal new mom stuff" • They push medication without understanding your full situation • They don't explain their approach or answer your questions clearly • You feel judged, rushed, or not heard • They overreact to intrusive thoughts (suggesting hospitalization when not needed)

If something feels wrong, it's okay to try a different therapist. Fit matters.

Questions to Ask in Your First Session

If you want to advocate for yourself, here are great questions:

"How much experience do you have treating postpartum depression?"
"What approach do you typically use for postpartum issues?"
"When do most clients start feeling better?"
"Do you collaborate with OBs or psychiatrists if needed?"
"What if my baby needs to be with me during sessions?"
"How will we know if therapy is working?"

What to Do After Your First Session

Immediately after:

Take a few minutes to decompress (sit in your car, take a walk, etc.)
Drink water, eat something if you're hungry
Be kind to yourself. Therapy is hard work

Before your next session:

If your therapist gave you homework, try to do it (but don't stress if you can't)
Notice what comes up for you emotionally
Write down any questions that arise

If you're in crisis between sessions: Call your therapist's emergency line (if they have one) • Call the Postpartum Support International HelpLine: 800-944-4773" style="color: #8B9A82; text-decoration: underline; font-weight: 600;">1-800-944-4773 • If it's urgent, call 988 or go to the ER

The Bottom Line

"The first therapy session is intimidating. But it's also the beginning of feeling better."

You don't need to be articulate, composed, or have all the answers. You just need to show up and be honest about where you are.

Most women walk out of that first session thinking, "I can do this." And you can.

Postpartum depression is temporary and treatable. Therapy works. And you deserve to feel like yourself again.

Ready to take the next step?

📞 Bloom Psychology - Specializing in postpartum depression therapy across Texas. Free 15-minute consultations available.

📞 Postpartum Support International - 800-944-4773 - Help finding a therapist in your area

*Dr. Jana Rundle is a licensed clinical psychologist and PMH-C at Bloom Psychology in Austin, Texas. She provides evidence-based therapy for postpartum depression, anxiety, and birth trauma.*